Is Your Own Excuses Keeping You Fat?
Why am I not losing weight? Have you ever asked this questions to yourself?
You might have tried doing everything what you can to shed weight but your weight is still staying the same. Sometimes, you find yourself doing something totally contradicting to your weight loss goal. You might suddenly binge eat, or lose motivation to stick with your plan or do the exercise your set out for yourself, you feel frustrated and ask yourself, “What am I doing?” Despite how much you think you want to change your weight, you may have an unconscious reason to remain overweight.
Own Excuses or Something More Deep Rooted?
You might always hear a voice at the back of your head that is like a demon when you’re on the verge of cracking and giving in to those cravings, such as: “It’s just too hard not to eat unhealthy food”, or “I don’t bother to lose weight anymore.”, or ‘It’s too late to lose weight, I’ve already wasted all these years being big and fat’ , or ‘What happens if I lose this weight and my life is still stay the same?’
You may think that you are giving yourself some excuses, but the reason for staying overweight can be more deep-rooted.
Unconsciously, You Want to Remain Fat?
Unconsciously, you may want to remain fat. It sounds crazy, but think about the obstacles that stand ahead of you, is not just your willpower, the stronger force can be your unconscious part of your mind influencing you to make all the decisions.
So, what is all this about? You might be having secondary gain issue as a subconscious roadblock that you are not even aware of.
Let’s look at some common examples:
Example 1: Some people have always been chubby since childhood, their parents might have said something like “You are chubby and so lovable!” Especially in certain culture, being chubby is seen as cutie and blessed. When they grow up, they never realise these words have been implanted in their subconscious and influencing them to maintain their chubbiness. Even when someone tries to make them realize that they are overweight, they tend not to listen because they have an incentive in the form of attention and love just like when they were children.
Example 2: Some boys tend to stay overweight due to the fear of facing rejection in intimacy and sexuality. Their unconscious thinking might be saying, ‘Being fat makes me invisible.’ In this way, they can avoid intimacy or sexuality.
Example 3: Some boys prefer to stay overweight as they tend to avoid bullying. This often comes from some childhood traumas where some boys faced bullying. They feel like they have the edge this way. Their unconscious mind might be saying, ‘I can stay safe being fat. Others won’t come close to me.’
Example 4: In many African and Arabic countries, overweight have been associated with richness, health, strength, and fertility whereas in the Western world, a slim body size is widely idealized.
Example 5: Some men also have this notion in mind that in corporate world, they need to make other people feel their presence. Only then it would become possible to sustain their ground because they have the physical advantage at least which is not easy to ignore.
Subconscious Roadblocks for Weight Loss
As you can see, from all the examples above, their subconscious does not support their desire to lose weight, but on the contrast, keep them stay overweight due to the secondary gain buried in their subconscious level, which most of the time is out of their conscious knowledge.
This subconscious resistance is creating an unacknowledged fear of change in them. Despite the benefits of weight loss they know they will reap, every time the secondary gain that is hard-wired at subconscious level overrides their conscious willpower.
Push the Comfort Zone from Your Subconscious Mind
Your subconscious mind envelopes all the processes that occur automatically in the mind and body. It includes thought processes, memories, drives and motivations.
Your subconscious mind is very comfortable with the point of where you are at right now. That is what we call the “comfort zone”. This “comfort” is the set point of where your mind and body considers itself to be safe and ideal because that is all it has known for a very long time. It grows accustomed to that state as being “normal” to you over time, therefore you tend to stay in this most comfortable state.
Yet, if you are determined to lose weight, we can access the subconscious part of the mind to clear any roadblocks. If you feel like there are conflicts in different parts of your mind, or somehow something is limiting you, then you may want to seek help from professional hypnotherapists to see what is it in your subconscious that is not supporting your desire to lose weight.
Uncovering Your Secondary Gains with Hypnosis
Through hypnotherapy, we take a deep dive into your subconscious mind to find out any underlying psychological problems that may be the cause of why you experience cravings, night time binge eating, or mindless eating.
By accessing that deepest part of the mind, we can get to the very root of habits, traumas, addictions, or any kind of behavior being buried in and address the issue, and therefore creating lasting change.
You will be amazed that once the subconscious roadblocks are removed, your conscious and subconscious in mind will be totally aligned and ready to work together, and you will find losing weight is easy for you.
